princessdeia

Crashing Down

January 17 2007
Filed under General

On the morning of the 6th January 2007, my father passed away.
Last winter he was taken into hospital with suspected heart failure, whilst there he discovered he had Renal Cancer with Bone Metastasis. Due to the strain on the heart they decided not to operate and instead monitored him regularly.

My father had been diabetic for years and this was never a problem until Christmas day, when he was taken in hospital in the early hours of the morning, after suffering a hypo. – However he was back at home for his Christmas lunch.

On the 4th once again we thought my dad had suffered a hypo in the evening, and once again called the ambulance however, this time we discovered it was actually the cancer.

Without a doubt my father has been the most influential person in my life. He arrived in the UK with nothing, quickly saved up enough for my mum to travel from South Africa so they could get married. For years, my parents thought they could not have children and when my mum had my sister they were over the moon – 17 months later I was born and they were so grateful for their two blessing, as a result of this we were completely spoilt.

With the exception of knitting all my other passion stem from my dad. As a young child my mum worked evening so my dad looked after my sister and I. He would sit in his armchair, my sister on one arm rest me on the other, watching Batman or a Western on BBC2, which undoubtedly lead to my love of comics. I remember sitting on his knee in the cinema begin scared of the monster at the beginning of Empire Strikes Back.

My dad was determined to offer my sister and I the opportunities he never had encouraging us into further education and showing us the world. As teenagers, our family holidays were to The West Coast of America and Grand Canyon, India, China and Mexico. Leading to my love of learning and travel.

Even as an adult he spoilt, his daughters and even his future son -in-law, if we dreamed of something for our birthdays or Christmas he would always be one to buy it for us, even if he didn’t understand what all the fuss was about. Whether it was an iPod, designer handbag or something in a little blue box.

At the moment we are taking each day at a time but I still feel like my world has come crashing down around me.

  • http://Knitgirlll06.wordpress.com Phyllis

    Hello,
    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss but so encouraged by the memories you have. I pray that as times go on the pain of the loss will be overtaken by the wonderful lifetime of memories.

  • http://www.indieknits.com Laura

    Dee,

    I sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you.

    xxx

  • http://showmeyourknits.typepad.com Jessica

    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. He sounds like a wonderful dad who has provided a lifetime of memories for you.

  • http://slippedstitch.blogspot.com alice

    I’m so sorry to hear that. My dad died last summer, just a month after being told he had cancer. And something happened to one of my best friends this winter – take care of yourself and the people around you.

  • http://erqsome.typepad.com Emmms

    I’m so sorry, he sounds like an amazing person. Much love to you and your family, and please keep well. x

  • http://javajem.blogspot.com/ Jody

    I’m sorry for your loss. Never stop remembering the good times.
    Take care.